Thursday, August 30, 2007
Sometimes she gets mixed feelings from him
Janie, 22, from Atlanta, asks:
I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now we get along great and we both enjoy each others company ...but...we haven't talked about where we stand with each other yet..we've told each other that we like each other but I sometimes get mixed feelings from him .. I know I should tell him how I feel and how I would like to be in a relationship with him. The problem is I'm scared of rejection. How should I go about this? Maybe jokingly say it or just be straight forward? Another one of my reasons for not bringing it up to him is that a month before we met he had just broken up with a girl he was seeing for about a year and some change! Help what to do?
VictorM's advice:
Don't bring it up yet. You're enjoying each other's company and have already expressed it to each other. As a girl you want the commitment but as a guy he wants to know you better before taking the next step.
You've been dating for 2 months, you like each other, and have said so. I'm betting that as far as he's concerned, you two are already in a relationship. But saying it formalizes things too much and too soon. He may just not be ready for that yet.
Strap your biological clock down with some duct tape and let things proceed nice and slow. And this way, you won't have to deal with rejection.
I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now we get along great and we both enjoy each others company ...but...we haven't talked about where we stand with each other yet..we've told each other that we like each other but I sometimes get mixed feelings from him .. I know I should tell him how I feel and how I would like to be in a relationship with him. The problem is I'm scared of rejection. How should I go about this? Maybe jokingly say it or just be straight forward? Another one of my reasons for not bringing it up to him is that a month before we met he had just broken up with a girl he was seeing for about a year and some change! Help what to do?
VictorM's advice:
Don't bring it up yet. You're enjoying each other's company and have already expressed it to each other. As a girl you want the commitment but as a guy he wants to know you better before taking the next step.
You've been dating for 2 months, you like each other, and have said so. I'm betting that as far as he's concerned, you two are already in a relationship. But saying it formalizes things too much and too soon. He may just not be ready for that yet.
Strap your biological clock down with some duct tape and let things proceed nice and slow. And this way, you won't have to deal with rejection.
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