DAWN, 35, from United States, asks:

I have this co-worker who I am very attracted to. We work very closely together and get along great. He was married for over 20 years and lost his wife to cancer about six months ago. I really would like to pursue a relationship but I do not know how to approach someone in this situation. How long should I wait, do I make the first move, etc.

VictorM's advice:

That he is a widower shouldn't change a thing about how you approach him. A bigger issue is him being your coworker and you two working closely together. Being together all day and night can turn into a living hell even if things work out well, but most certainly will be a nightmare if you breakup after. Unless you are willing to consider finding another job, keep off.

But work aside, I don't think much changes in terms of approaching him even if how he deals with having a new love interest is unpredictable. Who knows if he had a good relationship with her or not, or if he's ready to try again. But you never know these things about any one individual that you would meet some other way. So if you're interested in him, go about it as you would anyone else. He'll let you know where he stands.