Lisa, 40, from Boston, asks:

I dated a man for about 2 months. He was really nice and we had a lot of fun on our dates. He seemed really crazy about me, would say things like "when we get married", or "I'm the right guy for you". He was always respectful as far as sex was concerned. Didn't lay a hand on me until about a few weeks ago.....we didn't have sex just some heavy petting. Anyway to complicate matters I was chosen as one the "sexiest singles in my city" I was photographed and my picture was in our local newspaper along with a "bio" about me and an e-mail address so men can contact me. I told my honey about this from the very beginning and wasn't going to do it, but he encouraged me and said he thought it was great.The thing is I haven't heard from him since I was featured in the paper and then he blew me off via e-mail wishing me luck. My question is, what happened? Why doesn't he want to date me anymore?

VictorM's advice:

When a guy starts with too much intensity (talking about marriage and stuff like that so early on) he's clearly running on too much romantic energy. Eventually, that simmers down. I believe that it was not the publishing of the story that was the beginning of the end; I think it started when he encouraged you to go for it. That's when his romantic energy for you started fizzing out and he was pushing you towards other guys. Think back and I wouldn't be surprised if you can detect a slowing down of interest back then. That he fully pulled away when the feature was published sounds like just coincidence.

If there is another reason specifically related to you being featured after he encouraged to do so, I can't imagine what it could be. But for future reference, beware of guys that come on like stallions right off the gate; too often it leads to major burn out rather quickly.