eliza, 15, from somewhere over the rainbow, asks:

I have a question with my boyfriend. He has been under a lot of stress lately - he has 2 football practices a day and he's having some troubles with his family (just like yelling over small things and stuff), which has been making him a little grumpy at times. He takes out this crankiness on me and I end up getting hurt. What should I do about this? Is it going to get better?

VictorM's advice:

Start off by not making excuses for his crankiness. If you do, you're allowing the behavior to continue. Don't let that happen. Next time he takes it out on you, be stern and tell him to stop it! Tell him you're on his side. If he can't see that, he better leave until he does. One of two things will happen: 1) he will leave you because you don't put up with his crap. If that happens, good for you; you get rid of a jerk before things get worse, or 2) he will simmer down (even if he leaves at first) and learns that his little tantrums don't work with you and his childish behavior will stop.

Let me tell you, the pressures he faces a teenager are nothing compared to what he will face as an adult. If he can't handle this now, it will only get worse. You're getting a peek into his personality. Be careful with the decisions you make now, for they will determined the kind of person you become and how much you let a man dump on you.

Don't let any man dump on you, ever, for whatever reason.