April, 22, from Atl, asks:

Hey Vic! It's April again. I have another problem with the same guy. Here's what happened: After the situation that I told you about last time I took your advice and acted like it never happened and like you said things went back to normal. We also began to discuss a possible relationship in the near future and what type of foundation we want it built upon. Last Tuesday, he asked me on a date that was planned for the following day. We were supposed to be having a poolside picnic because I told him that is my dream date (cheesy, I know). Anyway, when Wednesday came he texted me about 3 hours before the date was supposed to happen and canceled because he is in night school and according to him his class got rescheduled for that night. Because of that he rescheduled the date for Friday. I thought that since he was thoughtful and sweet enough to remeber and try to give me my dream date, I would look really sexy for our date because he's only really seen me and jeans and a tshirt. So I missed school Friday and got my hair done, bought a dress, the whole nine yards. The night of the date he called an hour before we were supposed to go and cancelled again. This time he said it was because his bank card was demagnified so it couldn't be swiped to access any of his money, therefore he wouldn't have any money until the next morning when the bank opened. He had previously informed me that he had plans for the next day (Saturday), so when he said that we could go Saturday and I asked, "what about your plans", he said that he could cancel them. The same night (Friday) I suggested that since we weren't going to be able to go on the actual date and since I had put so much time and money into my apperance for him, could we watch a movie at his place. He said he didn't want to do that because he really wanted to take me out. I felt like he was lying so I texted him that I was going out with my friends instead. He told be to hold up for a few minutes so he see what he could make happen. I suggested he use his credit card, but he said it his business card. I didn't hear back from him for about 30 minutes, but when I did he called me and was angry. He said that I didn't "have his back" because I didn't offer to pay for the date. That made me upset because I felt like I shouldn't have to play for a date that was intended to be a dream date for ME and because I spent so much money on everything else that day, which he knew about because I informed him earlier in the day that I had a surprise for him and my makeover was the surprise. Anyway, I didn't hear from him until the next morning. I was at the mall so he said that he would come there to see me, but never showed up. Come to find out he went home and put a gate up. I didn't hear from him anymore that day until about 5 pm. He didn't even mention the date and when I brought it up, he said the had already told me he had plans, which the day before he said he could get out of. According to him, he had to watch his kids, but 2 days before he said he had to do something completely different. He wanted to reschedule again, but never said when. After the last situation that I wrote you about he advised me to communicate with him how I felt anytime, because of that I told him that I felt he was unthoughtful because he never considered all the effort that I put into my appearance for the date and never even came over to glance at me. He abrutly got off the phone with me and never called back. I was pissed and tired of all his excuses and rude behavior, so I sent him a email that basically said I didn't want anything to do with him anymore. I felt that I was forseeing a future with him that would be full of broken promises and inconsideration, so I figured why not cut my loses now and not later. He sent me a text the next day saying that he was saddened and disappointed that things had to end so abrutly and that they didn't work out the way that he would have like them to. He also said that if it's meant to be maybe we will meet in the future and work things out. I just want to know if you think I was right and cutting him off now or was I over reacting? Sorry that this is so long:)

VictorM's advice:

April, you get a gold star for the day! You did the right thing ending it with him. You certainly got enough red flags from this guy, so why keep putting up with lies and dumb excuses? You deserve a guy that will give you the same attention that you give the guy.

What, he doesn't have any friends from whom he could have borrowed some money? And then coming back and blaming you for something you had no business doing? That's bullshit! Plus he's a liar.

You're the sexy, thoughtful, smart, romantic mighty April -- you deserve better. You will do better. There will always be pools and picnics, so your dream date just has to wait for the right partner.