Maggie, 30, from Columbus, OH, asks:

About 3 years ago, I met a guy online in a chat room. We hit it off and after a week of talking online, we met. We didn't make it out of the house, we only made it to the bedroom. Since then, our relationship has been strictly sexual. Honestly, the best sex of my life and supposedly his. He has only spent the night a handful of times and has never taken me anywhere. I've never seen his place or met any of his friends. He has never met any of mine either. Those are all major problems, but the biggest one is that I actually care for him. The sex continues to get more passionate and better and it is harder and harder for me to say good-bye when he gets dressed and leaves.

Will he ever take me out of the house? I've threatened no blowjobs until we go to out, but I've never held up to it.

And, isn't he bored yet? I thought men needed variety.

VictorM's advice:

I'm sure he would take you out of the house if he wanted sex in public, otherwise, why do it? In an arrangement where sex is the objective what else do you expect?

Who says he's not getting variety? You think you have not met his friends and only see him a few times because the rest of the time he's an altar boy at his local church? A bit naive, perhaps?

Guys are quite capable of having passionate sex without feeling any passion for the person they're fucking. If all a guy sees in a girl is sex, yes, he will get bored at some point. It takes much more than sex to keep his interested going. You're getting emotionally attached at your own risk. You've bought into the role of being a sex object and using sex as a bargaining tool, so don't go expecting much more than that.