Roseann, 24, from AOL, asks:

I've been going out with this guy about three times know, everytime we go out he always pays for me, seems interested, he held my hand and put his arm around me. He's not good with the phone though but we keep contact on aim. He asked me out twice as a double date kind of thing but only went out alone together once and I asked. I met him through an old girlfriend of mine who he knows very well cause it's her boyfriend's brother. She went ahead and asked him if he kissed me yet and he responded he's working his way up there but he wants to take things slow. I'm saying to myself he probably is not interested and didn't know what to say. So I'm like, what is that suppose to mean? I like him very much and he seems different and understanding compared to most guys I've dated. He's definitely worth a shot and we have and awesome connection when we hangout. I'm willing to take things slow I just hope he goes foward instead of reverse.

VictorM's advice:

Of course he could lose interest at any time, but it is also most common for guys to want to go slowly before they get too involved and realize that you're not what they wanted. Sounds like this guy is going about it with that in mind.

The problem is that what girls and guys thinking of "going slow" differs quite a bit. The mere fact that after only 3 dates, only one of which alone and no kissing yet, you are writing to me wondering already what he might be thinking shows that as much as you say you're willing to go slow, you probably are not. Not in a guy's time frame anyway. I don't mean to say that I doubt your sincerity; I just mean your definition of slow is totally different than most guys.