Lacey, 17, from MA, asks:

I started talking to a guy on Facebook. He seemed really interesting and he knows one of my friends who assured me that he goes to her school and he's a nice guy etc. We talked for about a week and finally decided to meet. We went for ice cream and he seemed really interested. He got a call from a friend saying he got into a car accident or something, so he dropped me off and went over to his friend. He told me that he is taking the weekend off and that we will definitely hang out. It's saturday and still no call. I was feeling couragous so I called him, and he told me he was going to a bbq and if he gets out early he'll call. I don't know what to expect. In general, if I meet a guy am I allowed to contact him if I don't hear from him first? And are there any tips on how I should behave to get a guy I'm interested in to call me? Because this isn't the first time I have felt someone was fairly interested in me and I never got a 2nd date call. I'm not sure if this will help, but usually guys I'm not that interested in always call me.

VictorM's advice:

Yeah, I know the refrain: show too much interest and they take you for granted. You're not alone; it happens quite often.

Guys like to chase girls. They find it more fun if she's a conquest. Make it too easy and the guy looks for another who poses a challenge. Come across as aloof and... they want you.

Why do you think the expression "play hard to get" is used?

So should you be allowed to contact him? Of course! Is it wise to do it? That's a different story. You should at least refrain from showing too much interest. Let him chase you. And if he doesn't? That means he's not as interested in you as you are in him. Should you walk away from a guy you really like? No. You could encourage him but in such as a way as to keep your interest in him a mystery.