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Tuesday, July 31, 2007
She knows he's not a creep
lindsey, 22, from glasgow, asks:
I have got back together with my ex fiancee. We broke up over his financial issues and the fact he has loads of debt and couldn't committ. I went on holiday with my friend and met an old flame who I stopped seeing years ago because I wasn't ready for a relationship but we had a ball on holiday and kissed just once. He has a girlfriend and lives an hour away. We are in a situation where he's asking to meet up and if there's a spark we should break up with our other halves. I love my ex fiancee but he isn't man enough and is still immature as he never has any money to do things and I'm bored. This new guy treated me well on holiday and made it clear he will treat me right. He is also my brother-in-law's cousin so I know he's not a creep! Do you think that's unfair on my ex fiencee? Am I making a mistake breaking up because he's in trouble?
VictorM's advice:
I think you should break up with your current boyfriend. I see nothing unfair about you feeling that he doesn't measure up and that you want to try someone else. And no, it's not a mistake; staying stuck is a mistake.
I have got back together with my ex fiancee. We broke up over his financial issues and the fact he has loads of debt and couldn't committ. I went on holiday with my friend and met an old flame who I stopped seeing years ago because I wasn't ready for a relationship but we had a ball on holiday and kissed just once. He has a girlfriend and lives an hour away. We are in a situation where he's asking to meet up and if there's a spark we should break up with our other halves. I love my ex fiancee but he isn't man enough and is still immature as he never has any money to do things and I'm bored. This new guy treated me well on holiday and made it clear he will treat me right. He is also my brother-in-law's cousin so I know he's not a creep! Do you think that's unfair on my ex fiencee? Am I making a mistake breaking up because he's in trouble?
VictorM's advice:
I think you should break up with your current boyfriend. I see nothing unfair about you feeling that he doesn't measure up and that you want to try someone else. And no, it's not a mistake; staying stuck is a mistake.
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The new guy will treat you right?
He has a girlfriend and lives an hour away.
Like how he treats his girlfriend maybe?
I agree with Victor and dump your current boyfriend. But to hook up with this other guy immediately? Someone who lives an hour a way? Someone who may only want to hook up with you when his girlfriend is not available? Dumb move. I know no one wants to be alone, but sometimes it's better than the alternative. Try thinking about how the other girl will feel.
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He has a girlfriend and lives an hour away.
Like how he treats his girlfriend maybe?
I agree with Victor and dump your current boyfriend. But to hook up with this other guy immediately? Someone who lives an hour a way? Someone who may only want to hook up with you when his girlfriend is not available? Dumb move. I know no one wants to be alone, but sometimes it's better than the alternative. Try thinking about how the other girl will feel.
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