Old Enough to Know Better, 58, from California, asks:

Hi Victor,
Just to prove that idiocy can happen to anyone at any age, here's my story: I met this guy about 4 months ago. At first he was very into me, said he had a big crush, was eager to be with me, called frequently, paid me lots of attention, etc. However, he had all these problems. He said he was a caregiver for his cousin on weekends so we could never see each other then. (That situation was supposed to clear up 'soon'.) After the first month, he said he had changed jobs and now was working 2 - 10 p.m. However, we could still see each other after he got off work if I wanted. And he would take time off work or away from his cousin now and then to be with me. He never took any time off work. He had loads of financial problems and I let him borrow money. He was financially supporting his sick mama and helping his son through college and had back taxes due. He had health problems due to all the stress in his life. He did call me several times a day, but usually it was to complain about all his problems. Eventually I got tired of the midnight visits and started asking to go out. No need to spend money, I said. How about you take a little time off and we take a walk and hold hands or go out for a cup of coffee and talk? He always said yes, but then he didn't do it. A few days ago, I finally gave him the boot. Of course, like all the kids say, "he was such a sweet guy" and we had a great physical attraction for each other. I feel heartbroken, but I'll get over it. There is a remote possibility that he will pay me back the money I loaned him. So, see? Fools come in all ages.

VictorM's comment:

Thanks for sharing. We're never too old to learn.