marr, 18, from pos, asks:

I like this guy and he liked me back only until his lost long love re entered his life...then I became nothing. She gives him real trouble. She uses him and treats him bad. Why does he stay with her? I like him so much. What to doo? How do I make him like me?

VictorM's advice:

Your view of her treatment of him may be accurate, it may not be, but it doesn't matter. She's the one that poses a challenge to him, she's the one that gets his juices going. So he wants her back, for now.

Quite often, however, as appealing as she was to him before, that might not be so now, specially after he has met you. He was tempted to go back to her as a way of healing his wounded ego, but he may find he's over her and come after you. If he does, you'll be better off that he got her off his system.

You should respect his decision to give her a try and meanwhile, continue to be pleasant and nice to him. The last thing you should do is badmouth her and his decision. And start dating other guys. Do not wait for him. You'd be surprised how much more appealing you will be when you're with another guy. Maybe then he will recognize he has feelings for you. If he does at all.