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Friday, July 27, 2007
Confused Emotions in New Zealand
Confused Emotions, 19, from New Zealand, asks:
Ok so I'm in this situation where I met this great guy just over a month ago, and now I really like him, I think we have great chemistry, we mix well. Anyway, I wasn't really getting anywere, as in he wasn't asking me out. So I was talking to my friend and she suggested I ask him out. So I did, I asked him, and he said "I suppose we could go out sometime."
Well since then I have seen him once, and I was texting him a few days ago and I asked him if he was actually interested in me because he kept making excuses, and he said that he wasn't really looking for that at the moment. Couldn't he have told me that earlier and saved me the ache? So why would he do that? Is he playing a game? I haven't given him any reason, I haven't slept with him.
VictorM's advice:
No, it's not a game. Yes, he could have told you, but guys avoid being blunt with girls hoping that they get subtle hints. Frankly, I think he was just polite the first time around and you ignored the hints.
Let it be a lesson for the future that most guys are going to avoid telling you the truth if they think the truth will hurt your feelings. It's just the way it is.
Ok so I'm in this situation where I met this great guy just over a month ago, and now I really like him, I think we have great chemistry, we mix well. Anyway, I wasn't really getting anywere, as in he wasn't asking me out. So I was talking to my friend and she suggested I ask him out. So I did, I asked him, and he said "I suppose we could go out sometime."
Well since then I have seen him once, and I was texting him a few days ago and I asked him if he was actually interested in me because he kept making excuses, and he said that he wasn't really looking for that at the moment. Couldn't he have told me that earlier and saved me the ache? So why would he do that? Is he playing a game? I haven't given him any reason, I haven't slept with him.
VictorM's advice:
No, it's not a game. Yes, he could have told you, but guys avoid being blunt with girls hoping that they get subtle hints. Frankly, I think he was just polite the first time around and you ignored the hints.
Let it be a lesson for the future that most guys are going to avoid telling you the truth if they think the truth will hurt your feelings. It's just the way it is.
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