rein, 27, from india, asks:

I'm married to the love of my life, we were going out for 3 years before we hitched up. Now after almost 3 years, we are still very much in love and fresh together. For the last 2 years or so he has been playing video games online on the net, games like Moto GP and Games Spy etc.. it was fine up until it now seems to be taking up all his free time. He plays every night till the wee hours of the morning and spends all his free time chatting with his clan ( a motor racing clan he joined). Since we both working busy days, evenings are the only time we get together and I need to know how to get him to have a more balanced life with gaming and other activities. I know he realises it himself but goes right back to playing every night. Please help.

VictorM's advice:

Oh boy, I know how he feels. Many years ago my son got his first Gameboy and I used to steal in and hide in the house playing Tetris. I could hear him: "Mom, do you know where my Gameboy is?" while I was hiding in the closet. Ahhh those were fun times. I got really good at Tetris. Anyway... oh yes, you said balance. You females take the fun out of everything. :)

OK, getting serious about it. If you give him a hard time it will backfire on you, so I suggest you refrain from doing it. And if he's forced into spending time with you than your time together won't be much fun.

There is no easy solution, specially if it doesn't come from him. You can help along by planning other activities. Basically, try to slowly get him to spend less time in front of the computer, even if initially it's not just with you. It could be simple things such as cooking his favorite dish but asking that you eat it together. If he likes sports or movies, buy tickets for those activities so you can go together. Go out with his friends to a pub or invite them over your house. You will have to be patient; it's not going to happen overnight.

Say, do they have Victoria's Secret in India? ;)