Laney, 25, from Nebraska, asks:

If every time you see your ex, he talks about things such as "why didn't you tell me you wanted to be with me", "why didn't you tell me you loved me", "why didn't you even give me clues that you may have wanted to be with me 10 years down the road", what does that mean? He even expressed this to my sister when he seen her, asking her the same questions about me. He has a baby due in the next few months and I feel as though he has doubts about his current relationship (he has said that he is going to do the "right thing" this time around and marry this woman). We don't talk too often because there's a lot of animosity that I have towards him because I feel as though he left me and my child to go and be with and eventually make another baby with another woman.

VictorM's advice:

Oh mister loser cheated on you and abandoned you, then gets a women that he's not really into pregnant and does he assume responsibility for his actions? No. He wants to place blame elsewhere, namely with you. That's what all that means -- he wants to blame you for his problems. This is all about him being an irresponsible child. Give him the finger and go on with your life.

OK, maybe I don't mean give him the finger figuratively. If I understand you correctly he is the father of your child. You should at least get child support and feel secure in your decision that over time your well justified animosity gives way to allowing him to get a second change at taking responsibility, this time with his child. Not for his sake, but for your child's.