wondering25, 25, from brooklyn, ny, asks:

Recently I caught up with one of my guy friends from high school. We went to the prom together, but we weren't really attracted to each other then. We still kept in touch throughout college, but it was on a minimal basis. Recently we caught up again, and it wasn't intended to be dates, but it seemed like it was after we saw each other for 3 consecutive days. We went to movies, dinner, and I spent time over his house watching movies. Ever since those few dates, we have been in frequent contact with each other. I realize now that I do like him and I am attracted to him, but I'm uncertain if he feels the same. We have never kissed or been intimate. So I don't want to send mixed signals, however I really want to know if he feels anything for me, but I'm afraid to mess up our current friendship....Any advice????

VictorM's advice:

He's in his mid 20's, spends three days in a row seeing you, stays in frequent contact with you... umm... this is no brainer -- he likes you.

Simmer down your baby-making mechanism and enjoy a good friendship slowly evolve into a great relationship. Enjoy each other's company without the pressure of "commitment". On the path to a relationship you should travel at the speed of the slowest one. I don't say this because of any worries of messing up the friendship, but because you should give yourselves the time for courtship. Let him woo you and seduce you. That's what he wants, that's what he's doing.