Jennifer, 25, from Southern California, asks:

I met a guy through work and we really connected. We do live in different cities so our time together is minimal. But for the last 2 months we have talked constantly on the phone everyday, taken fun trips to meet up together, and been really involved with one another. Last week he cancelled plans for me to come visit this week, our 45 minute conversations daily have gone to 5 minute conversations twice a week. He was showering me with attention and affection, I'm trying to not get upset by his sudden behavior change, but what happened?

VictorM's advice:

What happened? He came down to the real world, that's what. Those 45 minute conversations daily were unsustainable by most guy standards. You both got off the gate at a pace that is too intense. He reached the point when it is time to shift from the high strung, love-drug induced behavior into one with more balance.

It's also possible, of course, that he's cooling off about you, and will fade out totally. But I would not jump to that conclusion just yet.

You'll do yourself and him a service if you encourage more spacing between calls. Don't be so eager or even so available to him. See if his interest remains the same as it is now. If it does, then I think you have found his happy medium (you have to decide on your own if that's enough for you or not); if he's happy he's talking less and less, then I think you can assume he's fading off and losing interest in you.

I know most girls have this super human endurance for phone calls and living in a text word, but guys are much more real-world based. After a while, all the talking just drives us crazy. We need to see you and touch you to fill-in the spaces between all the yapping.