Daisy, 16, from Kentucky, asks:

Hey. Ok so I met this guy awhile ago. We use to be in some of the same classes together, but then he moved. One day I was out with my friend and he came up to me and asked if I remembered him, and we would talk EVERY day (even thought he had a girlfriend). I finally told him that I didn't want to be the reason they would break up so we just started acting like friends. And any time we would talk about anything sexual, he would hint at me that he wanted some but then he'd be like... I'm glad we're FRIENDS. Now him and his girl have broken up. So I told him how I felt, and he said "I really only like you as a friend right now. I don't know that I want to get into another relationship right now." When I asked if we might down the road go out... ever... he said "I dunno that's the future." I'm confused. Does he still like me?? I don't want to just be friends.

VictorM's answer:

Daisy, I think the boy has been rather clear all along: he just wants to be friends.

Telling him you didn't want to be the cause of a break-up was good; telling him how you felt about him wasn't so smart. Why? Because now he knows he can have you at anytime, so the mystery is gone. He's now looking to see what other fish are out in the ocean. That's just the way most boys are. He probably still likes you but why should he rush?

If you want to be more than just friends, start being a little less of a friend. Make yourself scarce and show less interest in him. That's your best chance to get him interested in you.

Tags: dating advice, just friends