marie, 24, from georgia, asks:

Last week I went out with a guy I had met in college. We tried dating then, didn't work. A couple years later we ran into each other and went out a few times, he quit calling. Two weeks ago I sent him an email (a year after the last time we had seen each other), he apologized for the immature way he acted last summer and asked to take me out. We went to dinner, a lounge after and hungout all night talking. Easily one of the best nights I've had in a long time. He told me that a few times too. The next morning he said, "I can't tell you the last time I was actually able to go to sleep holding someone, why couldn't we have done this sooner"... and so on. I do believe there is something there, we both always have. Here is the kicker.. he leaves Friday for a job in Arizona... What do you think? You're a guy, haha.

VictorM's answer:

It's not often you see these two sentences together: "What do you think? You're a guy." :)

Besides thinking that the timing sucks, I'm not sure what you're asking me. So I'll offer some random thoughts and if they don't answer what you have in mind, write back.

Did him knowing that he was going away make it easier to enjoy your intimate company? It's possible. But I'm not much of a cynic and I don't think guys generally are the evil planners girls think. Guys generally live in the now. So basically, he enjoyed your company, you enjoyed his, and the night turned out wonderful. He probably had no thoughts other than living in the moment.

These days, with the internet, phones, and relatively affordable travel (depending on your incomes), staying in touch and visiting each other is not a major effort, but it can be a drag. Long distance relationships can work, but most often, they do not.

Maybe all you'll have for a while is a nice memory. But ours is an ever shrinking world. Serendipity lurks at every corner. You have bumped into each other over time. Who knows... maybe you'll find a great job in Arizona too (if you do, buy lots and lots of sunblock!) Oh, and look him up.