misha, 20, from nepal, asks:

In my first year of college I made friends with a really great guy. We hit it off (as friends) completely and soon became fast friends. I had never felt a greater level of bonding with anyone before. I had a crush on him and told him that but he was not interested and well.. just thanked me and said that he hoped it won't make things weired in the friendship. I made myself forget about it and we became even better friends after that. In the second year of college he had a crush on me and asked me out. I did not have the same feeling but said yes. I know it was a thoughtless thing to do but at that time I wanted to give it a try. We broke up in two months. It was good in the beginning but after that it did not seem true anymore. It was just two great friends trying very hard to make a relationship work. The problem was that at the time he broke up with me, I fell in love with him. We study in the same class and tried very hard to get back to the great friendship and comfort level we shared. We both feel sad about it but are not very open in communicating our feelings. It has been a year and I still feel miserable. It seems that time is only making it worse. There is another year of college left. I feel he has moved on. He is now close to another girl in our friends group. He hangs out with her most of the time. Maybe they even have a crush on each other and the only reason they are not a couple is me. I cannot see them together all the time. I feel that I have lost a very good friendship and it makes me very sad. Please help!

VictorM's advice:

Your situation is a good example of the expression "things will get worse before they get better". Things are getting worse, but that is part of the process. It will get better.

You can't make him have feelings that he doesn't have. So, given the circumstances, you hurt. Life is difficult and you're finding that out. There are no wonder pills, no magic wands, no quick fixes... you have to rely on willpower and determination to get past it.