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Wednesday, May 30, 2007
I have strong feelings for someone I work with
catey, 21, from usa, asks:
I am really torn. I have strong feelings for someone I work with. He is older. We talk a lot and he has invited me out before. I flirt with him and he flirts back. He has let it be known that me and him have been together to other people before. He has complimented me and wants to know who I like. He teases me. Shows off around me. I decided to try and get over him with someone else and I do like this other person but I can't stop falling for him. What do I do? Do you think there's anything there?
VictorM's advice:
You don't say how old he is, but I assume that the difference is large enough that you have concerns. Your description also seems to indicate that the older guy likes you and likes showing off around you but he has no interest in pursuing anything further. I say that because of him questioning who you like. I'm assuming he doesn't see himself in the picture.
You don't give enough information to address your "anything there" question. I will say this: older man quite often enjoy the attention of younger women. It makes them feel good and it strokes their ego. Does it mean they're looking for a relationship with her? Most often they're not. It's a fantasy situation, pure and simple.
You decided to look elsewhere for a reason. Trust your instincts; they never fail you.
I am really torn. I have strong feelings for someone I work with. He is older. We talk a lot and he has invited me out before. I flirt with him and he flirts back. He has let it be known that me and him have been together to other people before. He has complimented me and wants to know who I like. He teases me. Shows off around me. I decided to try and get over him with someone else and I do like this other person but I can't stop falling for him. What do I do? Do you think there's anything there?
VictorM's advice:
You don't say how old he is, but I assume that the difference is large enough that you have concerns. Your description also seems to indicate that the older guy likes you and likes showing off around you but he has no interest in pursuing anything further. I say that because of him questioning who you like. I'm assuming he doesn't see himself in the picture.
You don't give enough information to address your "anything there" question. I will say this: older man quite often enjoy the attention of younger women. It makes them feel good and it strokes their ego. Does it mean they're looking for a relationship with her? Most often they're not. It's a fantasy situation, pure and simple.
You decided to look elsewhere for a reason. Trust your instincts; they never fail you.
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