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Sunday, May 27, 2007
He Talks About His Crazy Ex
Kate, 20, from USA, asks:
What does it mean when a guy talks to you about his crazy ex?? I'm flattered that he trusts me enough to open up about her and about how he hates that she's always hanging all over him... but it's all we ever talk about! Sometimes I feel like he complains about her clingyness because he still has feelings for her... but then in the next sentence he'll tell me I'm pretty or something flirty. Is he really over her and ready to move on with me? Is he just a nice guy who doesn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her off? Or am I just a friend to turn to for relationship advice?? So confused!!
VictorM's advice:
It's normal that he needs someone to vent with. I don't know how recent the break-up is, but a period of confusion and a need to talk about it is normal. So he talks about her and he flirts with you... basically, he doesn't know what he wants yet. But he knows he likes talking to you.
Most guys hate to make a girl cry or hurt her feelings. He probably feels some guilt, even if she's crazy and even if he's done with her. He's probably just trying to be a nice guy with her.
Listen to him as a friend but don't get too close. Not yet anyway. He needs time to get over the whole relatioship/break-up/guilt thing.
What does it mean when a guy talks to you about his crazy ex?? I'm flattered that he trusts me enough to open up about her and about how he hates that she's always hanging all over him... but it's all we ever talk about! Sometimes I feel like he complains about her clingyness because he still has feelings for her... but then in the next sentence he'll tell me I'm pretty or something flirty. Is he really over her and ready to move on with me? Is he just a nice guy who doesn't want to hurt her feelings by telling her off? Or am I just a friend to turn to for relationship advice?? So confused!!
VictorM's advice:
It's normal that he needs someone to vent with. I don't know how recent the break-up is, but a period of confusion and a need to talk about it is normal. So he talks about her and he flirts with you... basically, he doesn't know what he wants yet. But he knows he likes talking to you.
Most guys hate to make a girl cry or hurt her feelings. He probably feels some guilt, even if she's crazy and even if he's done with her. He's probably just trying to be a nice guy with her.
Listen to him as a friend but don't get too close. Not yet anyway. He needs time to get over the whole relatioship/break-up/guilt thing.
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