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Thursday, April 19, 2007
My girlfriend is having feelings for her ex
Jonah, 20, from Louisiana asks:
My girlfriend is having feelings for her ex and wants to see if there is still something there. We are in a break and I am leaving her alone by giving her the space. Is there still a chance for me?
VictorM's answer:
Very much so. In fact, you are much better off letting her resolve that part of her life. As long as she has some doubts, it's in your best interest that she removes them. The odds are that she will come back to you. Let's face it, there must be a reason why they are exes, and those reasons didn't vanish. She just needs to tie loose ends.
But could it also mean she's stuck on the guy and he's the one who doesn't want her? Very possible. In this case, you're "mister second best," but you'll be able to tell that if and when she comes back.
The fact that she's honest about it and you're open-minded about it suggests to me that whatever the outcome, it will be the best for you. If she stays with him, you're better off knowing that now; if she comes back, you'll have a more focused girlfriend.
Tags: feelings for ex
My girlfriend is having feelings for her ex and wants to see if there is still something there. We are in a break and I am leaving her alone by giving her the space. Is there still a chance for me?
VictorM's answer:
Very much so. In fact, you are much better off letting her resolve that part of her life. As long as she has some doubts, it's in your best interest that she removes them. The odds are that she will come back to you. Let's face it, there must be a reason why they are exes, and those reasons didn't vanish. She just needs to tie loose ends.
But could it also mean she's stuck on the guy and he's the one who doesn't want her? Very possible. In this case, you're "mister second best," but you'll be able to tell that if and when she comes back.
The fact that she's honest about it and you're open-minded about it suggests to me that whatever the outcome, it will be the best for you. If she stays with him, you're better off knowing that now; if she comes back, you'll have a more focused girlfriend.
Tags: feelings for ex
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