Bek, 14, from TX, asks:

My cousin and I have been REALLY close since we 1st met when I was 3. Now, she's 15, and has a boyfriend. Thing is, he used to...and still does, like me. Since they've been going out, he's flirted with me non-stop. They were both thinkin about breaking up because they hadn't really talked to each other since they started going out, but Wednesday, he barely talked to her and she was freaking out saying that she didn't wanna break up with him now. After a while, they worked things out....but I wasn't happy. I had been hoping that they would go ahead and break up. I'm thinking, either I'm jealous of her, or I'm pissed because she always talks about her boyfriend. What in the world am I gonna do? I don't even feel like I wanna be around her...or her boyfriend because of the simple fact that both of us might start flirting......:S

VictorM's advice:

You're jealous of her. That's an intuitive reaction that you can't help feeling. It's understandable why you feel the way you do. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't try to fight what you do about it. If you and her are so close, you should try to rise above your selfish feelings and focus on her happiness.

For now, try to keep a little distance from her, specially if he's going to be around. The odds are you won't have to do this that long because sooner rather than later they will break-up. After all, a guy who flirts as much as he does isn't going to stick with one girl too long. And they have already been on the ropes.

Bottom line: don't think just of yourself; that's not what good friends do.

Labels: best friends, break-up, jealousy