Anon asks:

I never have relationship problems. Talking to guys comes easy for me, and I'm always getting hit on. But recently I met this guy, and he is kind of a player--so to speak. Just about everyone I know wants this guy. He acts interested in me, but I know I'm not the only girl he thinks about [if he even does think about me.] He says hi when he sees me and gets a friendly smile, but he never goes out of his way to hang out. We hung out a few times, but it was always with other people. We don't talk on the phone ever, and we've never had a serious conversation. I really don't know how he feels about me. I don't know what it is about him, but I can't get him off my mind. How can you tell if a guy is really into you, or if he's just messing around? It's driving me crazy... is it really that obvious when a guy wants you? I understand that if he doesn't try then he's probably not interested.. but aren't some guys just like that? I don't know. I really need to just hear the truth.

VictorM's advice:

Welcome to the world of crushes.

There's a good chance he's interested in a lot of girls but not settling on one yet. This means you have as good a chance as anybody else.

You can't easily tell is a guy likes you, specially if he's not sure himself. But on the other hand, you can't assume that just because a guy doesn't try he's not interested. That's not true at all. Quite often guys avoid showing a girl they like her for fear of being rejected. So don't rule yourself out.

Continue to talk to him, try to hang out when others are not around, be friendly, smile, and compliment him here and there on small things ("nice haircut, John" "love the shirt, John, is it new?", etc.) the more comfortable he's around you, the better your odds.