Madison, 14, from Kapaa, asks:

hey vic! It's me again (haha) well so how should I ask my friend out? I really like him but I don't know what to say...help me please...

VictorM's advice:

Hey, a repeat "customer". :)

Well, this is actually easier than it seems because I don't suggest you actually ask him out on a date or to be your boyfriend. What I suggest is that you talk in such a way to encourage him to ask you.

You need to find out -- if you don't already know -- what are the things that he either loves to do, or knows a lot about. Then, let me give you an example how to go about it. Let's say he loves soccer. If you know nothing or little about soccer, mention to him you'd love to go to a game (or watch one on TV) but you don't understand the sport and you'd prefer to go with someone that could explain things to you. I promise you, if you ask him to show-off about something he knows a lot about, he will volunteer to take you.

All you have to do is use what you know about him and follow this approach. The good thing is, this way you never get rejected, you aren't too clear about your intentions (and this is a good thing; telling a boy you like him is too often the kiss of death), and you get to spend time with him. As you spend more time with him, all kinds of fireworks are bound to happen. So, find out something he knows a lot about, show interest in it, and if possible, look for a situation where you two can be alone.

Don't limit yourself about what you could use to spend time with him. Your options are many: homework, a video game, a certain movie he loves but you didn't quite get, lots of things.

Now use your imagination and detective skills and go get him!



Tags: Relationship Advice, How to ask a guy, Asking a guy