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Thursday, April 26, 2007
He told the mutual friend the chemistry wasn't there
Trisha, 33, from South Pointe, PA asks:
I met a great guy thru a mutual friend, and we really seemed to hit it off. He emailed me everyday to say how much he thought of me. We only had a few dates. Then the emails became more sporadic but he still said things about how much he missed me, wants to see me, always thinking of me, etc. until now they have stopped. I know he is going thru a tough time personally right now and dealing with a lot of issues. I just found out that he told the mutual friend the chemistry wasn't there but I think there's more to the story. If there wasn't chemistry why would he have sent so many emails leading me to believe otherwise?
VictorM's answer:
So the guy met you and let's assume he felt the same way about you initially. He thinks you're a great girl. So the emails start. As days go on, he starts realizing that he's not as interested in emailing you as he was before. But, he thinks you're a great girl. So he pushes himself to write. He thinks to himself that maybe it's just a little phase and you're such a nice girl that it would be a shame not to try to make it work. So he tries. Eventually, he realizes that he's not into you and there's no point keep trying.
There was no intent to deceive you. He didn't lie. He just finally admitted something that took a while to sink in.
Tags: hit it off, emails stopped, no chemistry
I met a great guy thru a mutual friend, and we really seemed to hit it off. He emailed me everyday to say how much he thought of me. We only had a few dates. Then the emails became more sporadic but he still said things about how much he missed me, wants to see me, always thinking of me, etc. until now they have stopped. I know he is going thru a tough time personally right now and dealing with a lot of issues. I just found out that he told the mutual friend the chemistry wasn't there but I think there's more to the story. If there wasn't chemistry why would he have sent so many emails leading me to believe otherwise?
VictorM's answer:
So the guy met you and let's assume he felt the same way about you initially. He thinks you're a great girl. So the emails start. As days go on, he starts realizing that he's not as interested in emailing you as he was before. But, he thinks you're a great girl. So he pushes himself to write. He thinks to himself that maybe it's just a little phase and you're such a nice girl that it would be a shame not to try to make it work. So he tries. Eventually, he realizes that he's not into you and there's no point keep trying.
There was no intent to deceive you. He didn't lie. He just finally admitted something that took a while to sink in.
Tags: hit it off, emails stopped, no chemistry
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