Mary, 19, from Michigan, asks:

I started a new job recently (two months ago) and ever since I have started working there my coworker (from a different department), Jake has caught my eye. He comes into the restaurant, where I work everyday. (He has for years)... problem? I am generally a very chatty person, but around him I freeze up. What are some good topics to talk about that aren't too awkward? Is there any way to let him know my feelings without embarrassing myself if they aren't reciprocated? I have learnt quite a bit about him through questions, and each thing I learn seems to ignite my passions all the more. I have never liked (or lusted more appropriately) someone more in my life. I know these questions seem incredibly silly, but ... I'm curious, is there any solution to my dilemma?

VictorM's advice:

The best topics to talk to a guy about are the ones he either knows a lot and/or is very passionate about. Find out what makes him tick and bring that subject up. Guys love to show off when they feel confident about a topic.

But do NOT let him know about your feelings. More often than not that backfires. You need to make a guy curious about your feelings while making him enjoy your company. Guys love the chase. They love to brag about how they seduced you. If you let on that you like him, you take away the challenge.

To spend more time with him without giving away your feelings, present him with situations where he will ask you out. For example, if you know this guy likes British comedies, say you'd love to go see the movie Hot Fuzz but none of your friends want to go and you hate to go alone. Let him offer to take you. If he does, great! If he doesn't, there's no rejection.


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