Angela, 16, from Virginia, asks:

I really liked this guy or at least I thought I did. All I could think about was kissing him and lusting after him but I really thought I liked him. He's one grade below me and I try to catch his eye but I feel like one minute I like him and the next I don't. My heart and mind are telling me to turn the other way but his looks are pulling me back. When I first told him I liked him through one of his friends that friend said that he said I was ugly and said all of this bad stuff but every time I'm around he's staring me down and I'm so confused. I hate him/ I love him. Is it just his looks or do I have feelings for him? And today I found out he was going out with this girl in his class who was on my cheerleading team and I'm cool with her until today when I found out and I felt like hitting her. I haven't felt jealousy like that ever, I really don't get jealous. Is it just lust or could it be I really like him? Should I tell him how I feel and face him most likely laughing at me? Or should I just walk away?

VictorM's advice:

Walking away would be a mistake because you'd always wonder "what if". So don't do it.

Telling him how you feel would be a mistake because boys almost always lose interest when a girl spills the beans like that. So don't do it.

Ignore what people told you he said. Maybe he was joking, maybe he said it because he wasn't ready to admit he likes you, maybe the message was wrongly understood, maybe the person who told you likes you and wants you to stop liking him. So, don't listen to anyone else.

Don't be surprised by your love/lust question. Many times they come together and it's not until we know the other person a little better that we figure out our true feelings. You definitely are intrigued by him. He catches your attention and that's all that matters.

It's nice of you to admit how you feel about the other girl he's seeing. That sense of envy is natural and I commend you for being honest with yourself and admitting it. But I'm sure you'd never harm the girl. Right? Right!

So, basically, you're a 100% normal teenager with a crush on a boy and envious of the one girl getting his attention. Welcome to the world of normal people. If it's any consolation, I'd like t kick Liev Schreiber in the nuts. (If you don't know him, he's Naomi Watts' s boyfriend).

So, what to do? Be friendly with him. Smile. Say Hi. Compliment him. Make him feel smart around you. And who knows... he may be feeling the same love/lust for you, if not now, over time.

Tags: love or lust, he has a girlfriend, walk away, tell him how I feel, jealousy