Dear VictorM,

I was dating for about a year and we broke up because I moved to another town and he thought I was cheating on him so he cheated on me with my old best friend. Now I moved back and we are just friends and lately I have been thinking about him and I want that relationship back. The relationship of love and it seems like every guy that I try to be with doesn't want that? I think it might be the fact that I bug them about it. But then I met this guy and he had a girlfriend but we hooked up an he dumped her and I felt like a total skank. Then I wrote him a letter saying that I thought it wasn't a good idea if we hung out just now because they broke up. He responded with I can't believe you did this, I dumped her for you (and I didn't know this) and now he seems mad and he said oh well I can still get back together with my ex. And now I feel like everything I wanted is going away again. What should I do?

VictorM's advice:

Too bad you don't say how old you are, but in a way it doesn't matter. Mentally, at least, you're a child.

Look, most people don't fall in love right away; love grows as people get to know each other more. So it's natural that with most guys it takes time for them to feel or express love. You, on the other hand, probably want it too soon. Be a little more patient.

Whether you go back to your cheating boyfriend (he cheated because he thought you were cheating... what a crock of shit that is) or the guy who can't make up his mind who he wants, it doesn't matter -- chances are it won't work. I think your best course of action is to wait till you can draw with crayons within the lines and memorize your multiplication table. Love relationships aren't something you are ready for yet. It's nothing to be offended by; most people screw this aspect of their lives all the time.

Labels: love relationship, too young