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Sunday, March 04, 2007
Out of the blue he emails
ronda, 37, from indiana asks:
My ex-boyfriend and I have not seen each other in five years. We dated beginning ten years ago , kinda grew apart but still talked. Just recently as I was getting over the fact that I would not be talking to him any more and met someone else, out of the blue he emails. Nothing really just a new project that he was working on. It kinda got in my head, I told him that I loved him all these years, he says that he loves me and we will only be friends, but lately I get two emails a week from him, asking me to review his new projects. I was always a support to him. I still care for him, but I don't see how we can be friends and were ex-lovers. He even says he's seeing someone. I'm growing over it, but what does he want with me?
VictorM's answer:
You provided the answer to your own question: "I was always a support to him." He wants support. You're a friend, someone he likes (loves, as a friend), someone he feels comfortable with, someone he's made clear to he's not interested in romantically, and therefore, the perfect person for support. If you're reading more than that into it, you're barking up the wrong tree.
There's also something of an ego boost to be in contact with someone you know likes you romantically. Even if you don't feel the same way about them, their attention is flattering.
Continue to grow over it.
My ex-boyfriend and I have not seen each other in five years. We dated beginning ten years ago , kinda grew apart but still talked. Just recently as I was getting over the fact that I would not be talking to him any more and met someone else, out of the blue he emails. Nothing really just a new project that he was working on. It kinda got in my head, I told him that I loved him all these years, he says that he loves me and we will only be friends, but lately I get two emails a week from him, asking me to review his new projects. I was always a support to him. I still care for him, but I don't see how we can be friends and were ex-lovers. He even says he's seeing someone. I'm growing over it, but what does he want with me?
VictorM's answer:
You provided the answer to your own question: "I was always a support to him." He wants support. You're a friend, someone he likes (loves, as a friend), someone he feels comfortable with, someone he's made clear to he's not interested in romantically, and therefore, the perfect person for support. If you're reading more than that into it, you're barking up the wrong tree.
There's also something of an ego boost to be in contact with someone you know likes you romantically. Even if you don't feel the same way about them, their attention is flattering.
Continue to grow over it.
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well, like i like this guy i have liked him for two years and he is amazing. I really like him but i m uncertain if he likes me like that.
1) one time he followed me around ND WAS SAYING I`M FOLLOWING YOU AND HE DIDN`T STOP FOLLOWING ME TILL I LEFT.
2)he told me we were in his back yard and told me every time he sees me i brighten up his day
3) he asked me if i wanted to go to his house to watch a movie with him in his room and i thought he was joking so i played along and said you already have a date he said no i don`t if you don`t come then it will just be me in my bed and watching my movie.
4) my friend died and i was sad so i hugged my crush for the first time and he hugged me back then he put his arm around me and we laayed there and he held me in his arms till i left.
5)he commented on my hair when i got highlights and he said he liked him .
6) we talk all the time or used to till my friend told him that i liked him he has taslked to me for the pass few days but only every once in a while.
7)he always poked me in the hallways one day i asked him why he said so i will know that he is there.
8) me and the girl i dislike were sitting there in room and someone said me and that girl was his gir.friend then i said i wasnt and he said i have no one once i was out of earshot and he said he would rather have me as his girlfriend.
(=9) and like he always pokes me and one time i told him not to wait for me at the door i was really depressed but he started coming over to me then he came over and strated for the next shows
so tell me does he like me?????
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1) one time he followed me around ND WAS SAYING I`M FOLLOWING YOU AND HE DIDN`T STOP FOLLOWING ME TILL I LEFT.
2)he told me we were in his back yard and told me every time he sees me i brighten up his day
3) he asked me if i wanted to go to his house to watch a movie with him in his room and i thought he was joking so i played along and said you already have a date he said no i don`t if you don`t come then it will just be me in my bed and watching my movie.
4) my friend died and i was sad so i hugged my crush for the first time and he hugged me back then he put his arm around me and we laayed there and he held me in his arms till i left.
5)he commented on my hair when i got highlights and he said he liked him .
6) we talk all the time or used to till my friend told him that i liked him he has taslked to me for the pass few days but only every once in a while.
7)he always poked me in the hallways one day i asked him why he said so i will know that he is there.
8) me and the girl i dislike were sitting there in room and someone said me and that girl was his gir.friend then i said i wasnt and he said i have no one once i was out of earshot and he said he would rather have me as his girlfriend.
(=9) and like he always pokes me and one time i told him not to wait for me at the door i was really depressed but he started coming over to me then he came over and strated for the next shows
so tell me does he like me?????
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