Bonnie, 43, from Ontario, Canada asks:

I met a guy who joined our Department at work last summer. We hit it off right away and seem to bring out the best in each other. We are always making each other laugh and love to be around each other. We became friends very quickly and he is always teasing me and I catch him staring at me across the room all the time. He is always watching me closely. He has told other people in the company when they ask him why he is single that he is a heartbreaker and doesn't want to be in a bad relationship. Lately he brushes against me and pokes me, little touchy feely things but not in a sexual fashion. I have invited him to go do things and he has come to my place for a housewarming party before. How do I really know if he is interested in me? Reg is very special to me and he seems to bring out the best in me. Now I am very sociable and laugh all the time, I am always happy when he is around. He is always complimenting me and we share lunches. Do you have any advice for keeping the magic or perhaps helping it to grow. Do you think he is gun shy perhaps?

VictorM's answer:

The first thing to consider is that he may be reluctant to take things to the next level because you are coworkers. Some people have a big problem with that and prefer to keep a certain distance even with someone they really like. This should be a topic of conversation at some point between you two. Then you'll have a better idea of his interest in you.

I don't buy the gun shy reason. People walk away from others only if they feel they are not the ideal partner. He's single because he's never found someone worth taking a risk. That might change with you, it might not. Time will tell.

Don't rush him. I always say that two people should move into a relationship at the pace of the slowest one (usually the male). The other one is wise to exercise patience.

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