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Tuesday, February 13, 2007
Super straight forward
chloe, high schoolean, from somewhere in the world asks:
So I haven't done a great job with the guy I like. I kinda went super straight forward and am sorta pushing something to happen and I keep sending him messages like "why hasn't anything happened since I told you I liked you" and stuff like that and we don't talk at school and we are super shy around each other. We really don't talk at all but I adore him so much and have liked him for over 4 months... and apparently around his friends he's normal but when we see each other and get out a hello we tend to look into each others eyes for like 5 sec. a slow 5 sec and then its awkward the rest of the night. Can anyone give me advice on how to win him over?
VictorM's advice:
He doesn't have to make a move. Why? Because he already knows you like him. It's like seeing a suspense movie and knowing the ending -- it takes some of the excitement off. Besides, you're putting too much pressure on the guy with those messages. Cut that out!
I suggest you try to just be his friend. Invite him to a movie, to the local hamburger joint, to go bowling (anything that you know he likes) and behave just like a friend. If he feels you're not an obsessive maniac he'll feel more relaxed talking to you.
My guess is that you're both around 15 and it's quite likely that he's not ready yet for a girlfriend, much less an aggressive one.
So I haven't done a great job with the guy I like. I kinda went super straight forward and am sorta pushing something to happen and I keep sending him messages like "why hasn't anything happened since I told you I liked you" and stuff like that and we don't talk at school and we are super shy around each other. We really don't talk at all but I adore him so much and have liked him for over 4 months... and apparently around his friends he's normal but when we see each other and get out a hello we tend to look into each others eyes for like 5 sec. a slow 5 sec and then its awkward the rest of the night. Can anyone give me advice on how to win him over?
VictorM's advice:
He doesn't have to make a move. Why? Because he already knows you like him. It's like seeing a suspense movie and knowing the ending -- it takes some of the excitement off. Besides, you're putting too much pressure on the guy with those messages. Cut that out!
I suggest you try to just be his friend. Invite him to a movie, to the local hamburger joint, to go bowling (anything that you know he likes) and behave just like a friend. If he feels you're not an obsessive maniac he'll feel more relaxed talking to you.
My guess is that you're both around 15 and it's quite likely that he's not ready yet for a girlfriend, much less an aggressive one.
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