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Friday, February 16, 2007
Office Romance Fizzled
kcube, 35
Office
Asks:
I have crush on my 22 year co-worker who recently joined 3 months ago. It all started when she began hitching a ride home with me. For the 1st few session I treated her like a normal co-worker. The more I get to know the more I am attracted to her. It took me a week to overcome all of my insecurities before I dared even to asked her out.
Finally, I was able to sum all my courage and call her to tell her that I had very strong feelings for her. Unfortunately, she told me that is already attached. Now do not know how I can still face her at the office normally. This feeling for her is so difficult to flush out of my system since this is the first lady in so many years that I have had the courage to ask out. I still have the silly thought that I can wait some time maybe her relationship won't work, so that I may have a chance. How do get her out of the mind? Will a girl accept another man courtship if she only attached for a few months? I am emotional wreck now.
Lee's Thoughts:
It is totally classless to go after a girl AFTER she tells you that a) she's not interested and b) she has a boyfriend. Respect yourself enough to lay off. Relationships at work are very difficult and almost always frowned upon by management. So, you probably are better off.
Yes, you can always wait until/if she breaks up with this guy, but what kind of life is that? There are more fish in the sea my friend. She was attractive due to proximity, not because she is THE ONE.
Keep looking and keep up that courage. You did a great job giving her a call, now you know you can do it. Call up another girl you want to go out with. Call up two or three. You're a free man. Have fun!!
Office
Asks:
I have crush on my 22 year co-worker who recently joined 3 months ago. It all started when she began hitching a ride home with me. For the 1st few session I treated her like a normal co-worker. The more I get to know the more I am attracted to her. It took me a week to overcome all of my insecurities before I dared even to asked her out.
Finally, I was able to sum all my courage and call her to tell her that I had very strong feelings for her. Unfortunately, she told me that is already attached. Now do not know how I can still face her at the office normally. This feeling for her is so difficult to flush out of my system since this is the first lady in so many years that I have had the courage to ask out. I still have the silly thought that I can wait some time maybe her relationship won't work, so that I may have a chance. How do get her out of the mind? Will a girl accept another man courtship if she only attached for a few months? I am emotional wreck now.
Lee's Thoughts:
It is totally classless to go after a girl AFTER she tells you that a) she's not interested and b) she has a boyfriend. Respect yourself enough to lay off. Relationships at work are very difficult and almost always frowned upon by management. So, you probably are better off.
Yes, you can always wait until/if she breaks up with this guy, but what kind of life is that? There are more fish in the sea my friend. She was attractive due to proximity, not because she is THE ONE.
Keep looking and keep up that courage. You did a great job giving her a call, now you know you can do it. Call up another girl you want to go out with. Call up two or three. You're a free man. Have fun!!
