Amber, 14, from Ohio asks:

Ok well like there's this guy I really like named Lee and well he checks me out all the time in class and I stare at him and he catches me and smiles but he says he doesn't like me to my brother's girlfriend. What should I do to talk to him cause ever since Lee found out I liked him I haven't been able to talk to him without making a fool out of myself. What exactly should I do????

VictorM's advice:

What's wrong with making a fool of yourself? It's charming and guys love to see it. :)

Two points: One, guys often tell others they don't like a particular girl just so they don't look like fools if it doesn't work out -- it doesn't really mean he doesn't like her; two, he already knows you like him so that puts you at a disadvantage. See, once a guy, specially around your age, knows a girl likes him he's more likely to chase another one.

But the trick for you is to get him to do most of the talking first. Then, once you two talk a bit more you'll feel more relaxed. So how do you do this? Ask him about things you know he knows a lot about. For example, say he's into soccer big time, ask him to explain the offside rule to you. Just make sure you find something he's an expert at.

Just don't vomit on the kid's shoes when you first approach him.

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