Anonymous, 22, from Texas asks:

Is it wrong to have sex before a relationship if you known a guy for a while now? Ok I have really come to the point where I started liking this guy I been talking to for a year online through instant messaging. I got hints that he was liking me to because when I would make a comment you are crazy lol and he would say, " over you," then another one was that he said he wanted everything and I ask what was he meaning by that and he said you. I feel like I know him very well and so far he has been honest with me. We never met in person but we will meet within the next year. The only problem is that he is wanting sex from me. Knowing me I like to ask questions before going through with it. So I asked if we were to have sex would he use me and he told me, "No!" So should I take him serious if we have been talking for a while?

VictorM's advice:

Whether it's wrong or not to have sex is up to you based on your value system. But if you believe the guy's "No" answer to using you you may need a brain transplant. Come on, get real! What did you expect him to say?

This relationship of yours is silly. Let me ask you, does this guy have body odor? Does he shower regularly? Does he brush his teeth twice a day at least? The truth is, you don't know. You're talking about having sex with a man you may find repulsive when you meet him. And this line of yours: "I feel like I know him very well and so far he has been honest with me" is disturbing. You know NOTHING about him. You have NO IDEA if he's being honest. And while there is no denying that virtually every guy has sex in the back of his mind, to be this forward about it, it truly a bad sign.

You can decide to have sex or not based on your values, but based purely on your words I have to say you are nowhere near being mature enough to meet this guy much less to have sex with him.

Labels: long distance relationship, sex