diana, 22, from wa asks:

I'm friends with an ex of mine. He recently asked me why I don't date. We both haven't dated for a couple of years. When I told him that I'm commitment phobic then he starts to argue with me about it. Trying to prove I'm not. He eventually stopped trying to disprove it. He went on to ask what I'd say to him caring about me before and never stopped caring. That he wanted to get back together and have a serious relationship. I told him no. To which he then said he only asked to see my response. Then Friday he just messaged me to see why I had a good night the night before. I told him that I had guys buy me drinks at my friend's birthday celebration at P.J. pockets casino. Which I've never had happen before so to me it was a good night. He just said sweet then stopped chatting. I'm curious, what's going on here with him? Seeing he tries to say the feelings gone and argues over stupid things like he did when we dated. I do not have feelings for him yet he deludes himself as him being the real reason why I'm single.

VictorM's advice:

What's going on? He would like to get back with you, that's what's going on. Maybe he still has feelings for you maybe he doesn't; his typical male ego is the one in control here. For him to accept you that don't care for him would send him into a virtual depression.

Exes are evil. The sooner you're out of each other's life the better.

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