Amanda, 18, from Jupiter, FL asks:

Hi. :] I have a boyfriend of 4 months, and I love him, and I have claimed to be in love with him. We both went through a lot of stuff to be together. But while we were in our talking stage I had many guy friends, and ended up liking one of them, his name is Mike. My boyfriend and Mike know each other and aren't friends but they are acquainted. For about 5 months while I was single, I started liking Mike. Even though I had no intentions of being with anyone except my current boyfriend, my feelings for Mike continued to grow. We hung out everyday, a group of us. (Him, me, his best friend, my best friend and many more). I always had fun, and I thought Mike was funny, and cute. We kissed a couple times and cuddled, but nothing pass that. He's a virgin, and has done nothing except kiss girl. He's never had an actual relationship, although he's older than I am. So about two months into me liking Mike, his best friend told me that Mike didn't like me. And of course I believed him. We all drifted apart for other reasons, and I gave up on Mike because I figured he didn't like me and I was wasting my time. Just recently, I saw Mike while I was out with my boyfriend the other day. He mentioned me coming to hang out with him and all my old friends and him missing me. Only this time when I looked at him, I saw him differently, and I think he felt the same way. I could actually take him seriously, and want to try a relationship with him. It turns out that Mike never said anything to his friend about not liking me. His friend made it all up because he didn't want us to get together. Mike just recently hung out with my bestfriend and a couple of our other friends and told her that he couldn't believe that his bestfriend had done that to him because he had liked me since the day we met. He was so mad that his bestfriend would screw him over like that. We've hung out a couple of times since, but nothing happened romantically, because I do have a boyfriend. So I don't know what to do now. I don't know how to approach him. If I should just talk to him about it, or wait to see if he talks to me. He's already admitted to me that he did liked me, and he knows that I liked him. I just don't know what to do because I still have a boyfriend. Please give me some advise on what to do! Thanks so much-Amanda

VictorM's advice:

You claim you're in love with your current boyfriend, but I don't believe it. Not only are you too interested in Mike but your language betrays you. Look: "I still have a boyfriend". The word "still" is a sign you're ready to move on. I bet you're only with him because he's a nice guy and you feel you owe him something.

Break-up with your current boyfriend and after you're single, hook up with Mike and see how it goes. If it works out, great, but if not, at least you won't wonder about it for the rest of your life. Regrets are the worst thing to carry into old age. You almost always regret what you don't do; you seldom regret what you do.

What are you still doing reading this? Stop reading and break-up with your boyfriend (well... maybe you'll want to wait till after Valentine's day).

Labels: advice, answer, best friends, boyfriend