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Thursday, February 15, 2007
He makes exaggerated movements towards me
clare, 22, asks:
Situation is I like an older man. He flirts with me sometimes and then not others. If I am talking to other people he brings himself into the conversation. And if he's talking to other people he brings me into the conversation. He makes exaggerated movements towards me sometimes. Like he'll pretend he's going to hurt me or something just playing around. He's told me about his friends and their marriages. He tries to make me laugh sometimes. I get eye contact sometimes but not other times. Then sometimes he can be louder and other times I'm lucky if I get a hello. He acts different around me now than what he used to. He was way more talkative with me. What's going on? Why is he acting this way?
VictorM's advice:
Too bad you didn't say how much older. I'm going to assume quite a bit older.
Chances are he's torn between responding to being smitten by your youth, looks, and/or personality and the reality that the age difference between you two is too wide. Sometimes his fantasy mind is acting up and he pays you attention, other times his reality mind takes over and he backs off.
There's a good chance that he thinks he doesn't stand a chance with you. If the age difference is one you think you can handle, you may want to give him strong signals that you like him. But don't dismiss that as much as he likes you, he may not want to get serious with someone as young as you.
Situation is I like an older man. He flirts with me sometimes and then not others. If I am talking to other people he brings himself into the conversation. And if he's talking to other people he brings me into the conversation. He makes exaggerated movements towards me sometimes. Like he'll pretend he's going to hurt me or something just playing around. He's told me about his friends and their marriages. He tries to make me laugh sometimes. I get eye contact sometimes but not other times. Then sometimes he can be louder and other times I'm lucky if I get a hello. He acts different around me now than what he used to. He was way more talkative with me. What's going on? Why is he acting this way?
VictorM's advice:
Too bad you didn't say how much older. I'm going to assume quite a bit older.
Chances are he's torn between responding to being smitten by your youth, looks, and/or personality and the reality that the age difference between you two is too wide. Sometimes his fantasy mind is acting up and he pays you attention, other times his reality mind takes over and he backs off.
There's a good chance that he thinks he doesn't stand a chance with you. If the age difference is one you think you can handle, you may want to give him strong signals that you like him. But don't dismiss that as much as he likes you, he may not want to get serious with someone as young as you.
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