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Wednesday, February 28, 2007
A bum off the streets
Dani, 23, from WPG asks:
I have been with this guy for 3.5 years and just moved out of his house. We also have a kid together. I want to end things, when I tell him this he says that he will have nothing to do with his son and if I take him to court he will quit his job and become a bum off the streets. So he doesn't have to pay for him. But he has a daughter from a previous relationship and he pays for her. So I have been dragging out the process of dumping him so he can spend time with his son and give me some money. I need some help here. Should I just end it already then it's his loss not ours?
VictorM's advice:
You have good reasons for wanting to leave him but only make your move when you have enough money to be on your own. Don't pay attention to his threats -- he's only bluffing to scare you. You should leave on your own timetable. You should assume he'll refuse to pay child support and you will need legal help. It's going to take both money and time for court action, so make sure you have enough to feed your son and yourself.
I have been with this guy for 3.5 years and just moved out of his house. We also have a kid together. I want to end things, when I tell him this he says that he will have nothing to do with his son and if I take him to court he will quit his job and become a bum off the streets. So he doesn't have to pay for him. But he has a daughter from a previous relationship and he pays for her. So I have been dragging out the process of dumping him so he can spend time with his son and give me some money. I need some help here. Should I just end it already then it's his loss not ours?
VictorM's advice:
You have good reasons for wanting to leave him but only make your move when you have enough money to be on your own. Don't pay attention to his threats -- he's only bluffing to scare you. You should leave on your own timetable. You should assume he'll refuse to pay child support and you will need legal help. It's going to take both money and time for court action, so make sure you have enough to feed your son and yourself.
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