wendy, 33, from canada asks:

This guy and I dated for about a year, we had so much in common, he would tell me that everything felt right with our relationship everything was going awesome we would talk about getting married and so on till after the new year then he called when he felt like it and seen him when he had time there were a lot of excuses with him that I didn't like so I broke up with him. I found out he went to a party and started seeing someone I don't know if he was dating this person so I called it off. Anyways now the friends we have had I still talk to this one person and she always tells me he asks how I'm doing and what I have been up to. He ran into one of my friends and asked the same thing how I was doing and to wish me a merry xmas, but the catch is he is dating someone else now and why is he still asking about me? Is he doing this so I will call him or is he doing this because he just wants to know how i have been? Confused :S

VictorM's answer:

There's nothing to be confused. You are someone he cared about at one time. For some reason someone else came into his life and he followed his heart. That doesn't mean he hates you, dislikes, or doesn't care about you; in fact, it appears he cares. He's not asking about you expecting you to call him. He's asking because he's a human being, with natural feelings and concerns. He knows he hurt you and he probably feels some guilt about it. My guess is he'd like to hear that you're doing well and are happy. That would relieve his mind about what went on between you two.

See... not all men are cold-hearted monsters. :)

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