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Wednesday, January 31, 2007
We started talking about us one night
sam, 27, from lost asks:
I have been dating this guy for over a year. We started talking about us one night and he said he had to go. He told me just to give him new years be with him for new years. I told him I would but I needed him to make a decision on if he wanted to be with me or I had to go. He agreed. When the ball fell he kissed me and I asked. He said he couldn't. Later that night we talked on the phone. Things got emotional again and I told him I loved him. He said for reasons in his past that I shouldn't. I never asked. He said I love you for the first time then he hung up on me. He won't answer none of my calls or explain or tell me anything. I was ready to let it go until I hear him say it. If he loves me why won't he be with me? If he didn't want to be with me why say I love you?
VictorM's answer:
No, he doesn't love you. And you really can't complain -- he was direct with you about that. As for the last "I love you", that was nothing. It really means I care for you but I'm not in love with you. Heck, how many people (let's see a show of hands) say "I love ya" when they end a chat or phone call? It's just a term of endearment under certain circumstances. That's how he meant it.
Leave the guy alone. He gave it a try for a year and realized he's not into you. He just didn't want to be alone for New Year's.
I have been dating this guy for over a year. We started talking about us one night and he said he had to go. He told me just to give him new years be with him for new years. I told him I would but I needed him to make a decision on if he wanted to be with me or I had to go. He agreed. When the ball fell he kissed me and I asked. He said he couldn't. Later that night we talked on the phone. Things got emotional again and I told him I loved him. He said for reasons in his past that I shouldn't. I never asked. He said I love you for the first time then he hung up on me. He won't answer none of my calls or explain or tell me anything. I was ready to let it go until I hear him say it. If he loves me why won't he be with me? If he didn't want to be with me why say I love you?
VictorM's answer:
No, he doesn't love you. And you really can't complain -- he was direct with you about that. As for the last "I love you", that was nothing. It really means I care for you but I'm not in love with you. Heck, how many people (let's see a show of hands) say "I love ya" when they end a chat or phone call? It's just a term of endearment under certain circumstances. That's how he meant it.
Leave the guy alone. He gave it a try for a year and realized he's not into you. He just didn't want to be alone for New Year's.
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ok i am 15 and i like this guy all my friends say he likes me but i dont know. he just broke up with his girlfriend but before he did a girl asked him if he liked me he didnt say no but he said i have a girlfriend. but he looks at me differently than he does to other girls and when we do get the chance to talk we talk the whole period and one more thing today since he was dropping tech class my friend asked him for a hug he hugged her like he didnt want to ( he used one hand) but when i asked him for one he was like yeah you can have a hug in a happy way (and hugged me with two hands). i dont know if he likes me? please help
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