Jen, 25, from California asks:

Here it goes: I was with a guy for almost three years but the last six months off and on because we split on his terms but still remained friendly and would see each other every now and again (once a month maybe and no sex just hanging out). The last time together we had a great time (sex also) and I really wanted to talk about us getting back together but decided that I would do it the next day because it didn't seem like the right time to bring it up. I asked him to call me later that night and he never did. Much to my sadness I wrote him e-mails within the next month and he never responded. So now that I was hurt and sad I wrote one that said if this is the way it is then I would like my things back. I was hoping he would say something about us but instead I got my things in the mail later on that week. I don't understand what I did or why he acted this way. What do you think? I am sad that he couldn't just say how he felt. Thanks

VictorM's advice:

Classic case of girls thinking sex means something, and to guys it's just a fuck. But what exactly did you expect him to say? You had split-up before but remained friends. He has no other explanations or justifications to give you. You had sex with him of your own free will. He probably sensed you wanted more than what the understanding was -- that is, friends only -- and decided to cut out contact. Words are not necessary since there was nothing new.

I don't blame him. Really, females want to talk, talk, talk even when there's nothing to say. How suffocating!

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