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Thursday, January 25, 2007
A little strange
Jen, 29, from Boston asks:
I've been dating a guy for a few months, and the last month has been a little strange. We haven't seen each other much (we've both been out of town, sick, and whatnot) but I was unsure if he wanted to keep seeing me. Once we did see each other again he was very affectionate, romantic, and everything seemed good. However, I just found out that he had a birthday a couple of weeks ago and he never said anything to me about it. What the hell is going on in his head?
VictorM's advice:
I don't know what you mean by strange, but my guess is that he had plans for his birthday, maybe with his pals, and you didn't figure in those plans. That's easy to understand why considering you haven't seen each other much and you were unsure if he still wanted to see you. Obviously, this is not a serious relationship yet. Why should he have to tell you everything about his life at this point? He doesn't!
I know, as a girl you would tell him every minute detail of your plans to the point of him sticking needles in his eyes, but guys don't think or behave that way. So don't take it personally.
This says to me you don't rate very seriously in his life, at least not yet. That may change, it may not. But it doesn't sound abnormal to me. He may be strange, but omitting you from his birthday doesn't make him so.
I've been dating a guy for a few months, and the last month has been a little strange. We haven't seen each other much (we've both been out of town, sick, and whatnot) but I was unsure if he wanted to keep seeing me. Once we did see each other again he was very affectionate, romantic, and everything seemed good. However, I just found out that he had a birthday a couple of weeks ago and he never said anything to me about it. What the hell is going on in his head?
VictorM's advice:
I don't know what you mean by strange, but my guess is that he had plans for his birthday, maybe with his pals, and you didn't figure in those plans. That's easy to understand why considering you haven't seen each other much and you were unsure if he still wanted to see you. Obviously, this is not a serious relationship yet. Why should he have to tell you everything about his life at this point? He doesn't!
I know, as a girl you would tell him every minute detail of your plans to the point of him sticking needles in his eyes, but guys don't think or behave that way. So don't take it personally.
This says to me you don't rate very seriously in his life, at least not yet. That may change, it may not. But it doesn't sound abnormal to me. He may be strange, but omitting you from his birthday doesn't make him so.
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