Courtney, 17, from Canada asks:

Okay just to warn you...this is gonna be a long one...well I'm a little bit confused right now. See, I have history with this guy, we've known each other since the third grade and he always used to drag me through puddles and jump on me in the snow. I thought he hated me but it turned out to be the opposite. We were best friends in grade five then had a fling in the summer the same year. We kept it a secret and decided to break it off after summer was over. When we got to high-school, we acted like strangers in the hallway. The last girlfriend he had was in grade 8 and I went through a few. He started talking to me after I broke up with my long term boyfriend. It was completely out of the blue to say the least and now we're good friends (in secret) and we can talk about anything and everything. It's hard to explain all the important stuff in between all this, but I want to know, coming from a guy's perspective...Do you think he might still have feelings for me?

VictorM's answer:

I think there's a very good chance of that. Even more, I think it's quite likely. It's natural that both of you had a few partners. At your ages, focusing on one person for too long is not the norm. Now, you're starting to mature and the attraction is coming back. But with a guy you can never rule out that he thinks you'll just be easy.

The one thing I don't understand is why keep the friendship a secret? Is it your choice or his? Is this a case of wanting to eat the cake and keeping it too?

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