Caz, 22, from Tyne and Wear asks:

I like this guy at work, we have previously been in training when we first started at our work in October. It was only for a week but our group got on really well and we are all friends now. The same group started training for a new department last week and I noticed I liked him more than a friend. It wasn't until then that I noticed he stares at me, I smile back etc. and thought it was often enough to think he might like me too! My gay guy friend (who's in the training group) has noticed the stares as well, thinks he may like me also but when he quietly suggested today to him we make a lovely couple he reacted a bit shocked at the suggestion and didn't really say much so now I'm left wondering how he feels. What should I do?

VictorM's advice:

The first thing you should do is tell your gay friend to mind his own butt business. You're no longer in middle school!

The guy may like you, but since you're in a work environment, it doesn't surprise me he was taken aback by your friend's comment and may not be ready to make a move on you and risk his job.

Staring at you doesn't mean he likes you, it just means he likes staring at you. So unless there's more than stares, you have no way of knowing how he feels.

Try to keep things cool at work -- it really isn't the best place to start romances, especially when you're trainees. If you have opportunities to spend time with him away from work, do that. If he's interested in you he will look for those opportunities too, if he's not interested, he will offer excuses.

Of course, don't discount he may be more interested in your gay friend.

Labels: coworker, romance