marie, 22, asks:

There is this guy that I work with that I like. He is always nice to me and I thought that maybe he liked me too but now I'm not so sure. He will start a conversation with me, has asked me questions about my financial and social life, and I know it's not just him being polite because he will be the one to keep the conversation going. I notice him looking at me occasionally. We walked past each other the other day and when I looked up he was looking at me so I looked back and then away (not down). What makes me think that he does like me is that sometimes wherever I am at he is at. Actually, I've noticed this a fair bit lately. He is an outgoing guy, so he does talk to a lot of people but me and him have a few things in common. I've noticed that while he was talking to me he was grabbing at his ear and this is supposed to be a sign that he is at least attracted. And sometimes when I'm around I've noticed that he can become louder than usual and he acts like an idiot. Then sometimes he completely avoids me. What do you make of this? Sorry for the length.

VictorM's advice:

Grabbing his ear means he's attracted to you? Um... I never heard that, but maybe you're right... well, assuming he doesn't have gout (that can cause itchy ears.)

OK, because he changes his behavior around you it's quite likely that he likes you, but you are his coworker and that's a good enough reason for a lot of people to keep their feelings to themselves. That could be the case with him. Some days he's more adventurous, some days he doesn't want to risk his job and maybe even yours.

Do you think him acting like an idiot around you is a turn on? Don't answer that.

Labels: coworker, signs, work romance