Jo, 15
Ohio
Asks:

I dated a girl about a year ago. I did something really stupid and we broke up. Her friends say she still likes me. I like her and I want to ask her out again. She hasn't said herself that she likes me though. I want to ask her out again. How should I approach the matter?

Lee's Thoughts:

I would say that the friend-connection is a good source of info. They have her best interests at heart and they would not have let it slip that she likes you if she didn't.

What to do? Start by taking it slowly. Just talk to her normally, like a guy friend. Say hello in the hallways. Compliment her on her basketball game last night (or dance recital, or art show, or band performance...whatEVER). Be NICE to her and show her some interest. That will definitely set things in motion in a smooth way. You want to become friends with her again.

When you've done that, be alert for the moment to see if she's ready to take it to the non-platonic level. You can ask her to a dance, invite her out for pizza after school, a movie, anything fun and easy and there you go! You're dating!!

Just take it easy. Don't stress about whatever stupid thing you did back in the day. We've all done something stupid. If it comes up, just laugh it off and admit that you would take it back if you could.

Let us know how it goes!!