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Saturday, December 16, 2006
He kept sending me text messages
Jennifer, 32, from texas asks:
I met a guy that's divorced and had a bad relationship after the divorce. We started to date each other and when things started to take off, he backed up. He didn't disappear, he kept sending me text messages. We've talked and he says he wasn't ready for the relationship and it had nothing to do with me. We now hang out on occasion and it's not just about friends with benefits but we do things together. He adjusts his schedule to make time to see me, but not often. Trying to figure out if it really is about avoiding the commitment?
VictorM's advice:
It's about getting the most from you and giving back as little as possible. And he's succeeding. Whether you like it or not, you are just a friend with benefits. Don't believe me? Stop the benefits and see what happens.
Any sensible guy will avoid commitment with a girl if he doesn't think she's "it". But hey, he won't turn down benefits.
I met a guy that's divorced and had a bad relationship after the divorce. We started to date each other and when things started to take off, he backed up. He didn't disappear, he kept sending me text messages. We've talked and he says he wasn't ready for the relationship and it had nothing to do with me. We now hang out on occasion and it's not just about friends with benefits but we do things together. He adjusts his schedule to make time to see me, but not often. Trying to figure out if it really is about avoiding the commitment?
VictorM's advice:
It's about getting the most from you and giving back as little as possible. And he's succeeding. Whether you like it or not, you are just a friend with benefits. Don't believe me? Stop the benefits and see what happens.
Any sensible guy will avoid commitment with a girl if he doesn't think she's "it". But hey, he won't turn down benefits.
Labels: commitment, friends with benefits, relationship
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