Brittany, 16, from NC asks:

OK, Here's my problem: I like this guy that I work with a lot. A LOT A LOT!!! We are really compatible and call each other all the time and have like 2 hour long conversations. He's 19 and I'm 16 and we hang out on our days off. Here's the big problem.... he has a girlfriend.... or at least he says he does. Everybody at work doesn't believe him. He hasn't told anyone her name. NOT EVEN HIS MOTHER!!! Kinda fishy huh? So what does it mean? Does he not like me? I'm kinda worried!

VictorM's answer:

If he spends that much time with you, I don't believe he has a girlfriend. Guys usually like to brag. So, why could he be saying he has a girlfriendt? The one good reason I can think of is to slow you down. Maybe he wants to take it slow and just enjoy your company without the hassles of it being a relationship. But, someone who carries such a lie is a risk. Either way, this is not a good sign. If he's telling the truth about having a girlfriend, why is he spending so much time with you? If he's lying, well... lies are not exactly the quality you want in a guy.

Right now you're giving him what he wants at the expense of what you want. So call his bluff -- stop hanging out with him. Tell him you feel uncomfortable spending so much time with someone else's boyfriend. He'll have to either accept your decision (in which case, he's either telling the truth and/or doesn't have a romantic interest on you), or he'll tell you he's been lying.

Either way ot goes, you'll get more resolved this way than just tagging along now.


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