Brittney, 15, from usa asks:

A little over a year ago I went out with this guy Mike for about 5 1/2 months. I ended it when I found out that he cheated on me. But I'm still deeply in love with him and I don't know what to do. Should I stay friends with him? How do I get over him?

VictorM's advice:

You should not stay friends with him. I'm not saying you should be his enemy or be rude to him, but stay away. Staying friends will only make getting over him more difficult and painful. It will not be easy for you to see him with another girlfriend, and if he wants to, he can make your life very miserable.

To get over him you have to give yourself more time. Make new friends, go to new places, find new hobbies, and above all, avoid being around him. Focus on things that make you happy. If you like to paint, paint. If you like to read, read. Keep your mind occupied with fun things. Meanwhile, don't be shy about dating other guys even if they are nowhere near your ideal. Actually, going out with guys you aren't too crazy about isn't bad because this way there is no pressure, and who knows, some of them might make you laugh and experience things you wouldn't otherwise. Eventually, you'll run into another guy that will make your heart skip a beat. And then you'll go... Mike who?

By the way, feel very proud about breaking up with him even if it wasn't easy. That shows courage and determination and I'm sure with those qualities you will continue to do what's best for you.

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